Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Schools, Work and Stress

Lest anyone thinks that this whole move has been seamless, there have been two lingering sources of stress for us. We committed to moving long ago when we bought our plane tickets and the house leases were both signed back in February but where the kids will go to school and how Marty will continue to work from Germany have been a bit stressful and a constant thought in our minds. We knew that things would need to be given time in both the work and school categories to sort themselves out but the waiting has been hard.

As I said before, our first choice school is the German/American John F. Kennedy school (photo below) which is located less than half a mile from our rental house .  According to google maps that makes it a 9 minute walk or a 4 minute bike ride = dreamy school commute!
I have emailed, called and done as much as I can do to "check up" on our status from this end but we still have not heard a definitive answer from any of our top 3 schools. We do know that homeschooling is actually illegal in Germany so that option (as so many well meaning friends have suggested) is not possible.  

When I make calls to Germany it is quite an ordeal because 1) I do not speak German 2) I do not understand German and 3) Because of the time change I either have to stay up past 11 PM - which is way past our bed time or be up and on the phone by 5 AM - which is much earlier than I'd like to be up.  Nonetheless, I have called all three of our top pick schools at least once.   When I called JFK a few weeks back and all of the secretaries were out sick (!?!) and the principal answered.  I didn't know it was the principal so I asked if he could answer a few of my questions regarding admissions.  His reply: "NO, because I AM the PRINCIPAL!" Thankfully he didn't know who I was or who my children are as I'm pretty sure I offended him. 

I called again a few days later and spoke to an American secretary but still not much help.  This was pretty much her answers: "If you haven't received an email from us regarding your child's acceptance then there isn't a status to update. Yes, one of your children could be accepted at JFK and not the other and be aware.  Most other Berlin schools have very different calendars and vacation days making having your children at two different schools quite difficult. There is no way to know your chances of getting in. Yes, you are at the top of the priority list with only American diplomats or Department of Defense children being accepted before yours. We are always full and when  a space becomes available we let you know. If you accept admission from another school and then are accepted here that would be between that school and you.  Clearly, I can not give you legal advice. I have a long line in front of my desk.  I must go.  I'm sorry my answers were not more satisfying to you. " 

There will be a lot to learn or thicker skin to grow during our year there.  I am used to the Mexican or Central American approach to people.  If I had made the same type of call to a Mexican school I can imagine a lot more chit chatting and warmth and even if they had given me incorrect information there would have attempts at building a friendly relationship and efforts to not offend.  I can remember many times while traveling in Central America when I needed to ask a local about directions or local information.  They would typically go on and on about how to get somewhere or when a festival started or something and then I'd find out later (when lost or on the wrong day for the festival) that they actually knew very little about what they were talking.  But instead of offending me and just saying that they didn't know and potentially disappoint me would rather go on and on with misinformation while trying to be friendly.  The Germans will tell you the straight up truth every time.  Plain and simple.  It being satisfying to you is not important to them.  There are definitely pros and cons to each cultural style.  

We did get another email from JFK saying that all applicants should hear something about admissions by the end of May.  Well, here we are.  May 31st and still nothing. Fingers and everything else still crossed that the kids are accepted and we hear confirmation of this soon.  My hair is turning grayer by the day! 

What we will do for work has been another discussion.  I'm currently teaching Spanish at co-op preschool part time.  I am not a German citizen as the rest of my family is so I am not allowed to work until I get the German equivalent to a Green Card.  All of the International Schools I looked into required a 2 year commitment and we only plan to be there for one. And if we get into our first choice school, Benjamin would only go to school from 8AM until 1PM  making having a real job for me quite difficult.  I may look into subbing jobs or tutoring or teaching English once we are there and settled.  

Marty's work situation was a bit easier to figure out but not much.  When we first decided to move we talked about him just doing his Twisted Scholar video production work from Berlin.  He is under contract at the radio station through December so our worst case scenario plan was that he would help get us settled in August and then he would come back to finish out his work contract with a few trips back to visit us throughout the Fall and Winter. When he brought up his plan to move his bosses were unbelievably cool about it.  They definitely did not want to break up the great morning show team and all wondered if it would be possible for him to continue doing the show but from Berlin. Well, Marty from Berlin but the rest of them from the radio studio in Seattle. 

In the weeks that followed that initial meeting they have given him all the tools, technology and resources he needs to be able to do the show remotely.  He, fortunately, has the brains to put it all together and make it work. One brilliant suggestion was to try it out before we even leave the country.  Even though they would just be across town from each other, it would feel a lot like what it would feel like from Berlin.  For the past couple of weeks he has been doing his radio show from our basement studio while Jodi, Pedro and Luciana are all back in the downtown Seattle radio studio.  It is quite amazing that you cannot tell one bit of difference and I'm REALLY listening.  It is yet to be seen whether it will actually work from Berlin but they all seem to think that it will.  The best part of the plan is that his crazy early start (and bed) times will become MUCH more palatable due to the time change.  His normal 5AM until 10 AM shift would become 2 PM until 6 PM!!  And because the equipment needed to do the show is so small (just a small box/machine/thing, a microphone and his laptop) he can literally take his show on the road and he can continue to do it while we are traveling, which we plan to do a lot of.  The kids and I could go to the pool or a beach or a museum for a few hours while he knocks out his show all while visiting Portugal, or Bulgaria or Finland!! 

Our thumbs are pressed (which is what the Germans say instead of 'fingers crossed') that both schools and work fall into place!!







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